Ask iAN

Online Spiritual Tech Support

The subject matter is not suitable for some children, nor is it intended for adults ages 18 and over.
While visiting 'Ask Ian' we ask participants to please refrain from using discretion, as it will only make matters worse.

Ask iAN* Becoming the Butterfly

Photobucket

First of all.... "Things" in Life Suck...Life doesn't suck...but some "Things" inside of it Do.
2nd...You don't
"Need" to colour your hair
get wasty and torn out or tattoo your titties or get ear rings the size of banana slices to feel less alone...etc, but I hear ya...yer tired and worn out from being the good guy all the time...the one who
saves the day...you're tired of being Cinderella while the step sisters go out at night and dance to rock n' roll at the ball, pack their beaks with the judas priest cola, fingerfuck in fancy velvet cushioned cruisers...you know what I mean...yer not alone...but it can sometimes have an ill effect on a person...you get so tired of playing Ms. Goody twoshoes, that one day, some hairline fracture splits the surface and next thing you know
yer making Amy Winehouse look like a virgin.
23 years of Age
is old enough by any means to know the score and yet it is also still too young to really make a promise to any set way of Life...I think...that you should.....

know....that...

at any plain ol' damn time you can get a tattoo.  Not
that you need one, but....
you ARE of legal age and it IS your body.
You are Old enough to have an abortion without a guardian's ok.
You are old enough to go to War to be cannon fodder and get your head blown into disco confetti
and you are old enough to say "NO" to bullshit you are tired of. 
Sounds to me like you don't need a tattoo or a one night stand...maybe you just need to start off with a new small flat...just one for yourself....and inside that flat....you can find the time to reinvent yourself and take stock of your life....I would get a slab of a bloody notebook and begin to fill it up with the things that I wanted to change about my Life and how to go about doing them....
Take the time to make your life interesting to yourself...and say instead of getting loaded, instead you buy for yourself a racey red ziggy stardustesque halter top and a pair of vintage jeans...or instead of getting kissed by a boy and pregnant 5 weeks later...you take a taxi and have 3 beers at the PULP concert....

the best part about you being 23...is that you have time if you utelize (sp) it wisely to do just about anything your wonderful lil' heart desires....but just because you're a little clean cut and green doesn't mean you need to become a rockn'roll whore in a fortnight...be more creative than that....any two bit git can go off the deep end and call it rock and roll....and it ain't.  If you have people that you need to take care of, or a job where you have to be serious....then yes, that is a bit of a hard lot....but remember....when you clock out...you are on YOUR TIME.

I think you do need more pizz'azz and slight glam added to your life...just don't go jumping off the lame rock n'roll cliche deep end....

anybody can do heroin
anybody can fall asleep in their own sick
anybody can get pregnant by some slackjawed punk rock tosser
anybody can be a slag
anybody can write a song about how dangerous they are....

take it slow...keep a journal...about perhaps things you want to change...and on the other page...ways to go about changing them....it can be very exciting....say for instance

saving up a little coin and traveling....to some place YOU want to visit...

nothing wrong with a bottle of wine and painting a canvas with oil paints while you are nude...alone and locked in your gaff...listening to exile on main street......

go out in the country and just run....

go to an automobil cemetery and kick the shit out of dead cars with your cowboy boots....I would tell you to shoot bottles with a pistol....but that is a bit much now....so just add that to your shit to do list and check it off in a year or two.....

There are so many more things to do in this life than to play it safe
or play it lame like a rock and roll goof....there are all the things in between that make it exciting....

but i think you DO need a break from some of the mundane things that take up your time...and only YOU can change that....don't wait for others to change it, or your horoscope to come to your front door with a majick wand and change it or Prince charming with his insipid ideas to come waltzing into your bog with a pound of fresh cut roses.....make your own

Santa Claus list of cool shit you wanna do....with YOUR one and Only Life.....

be your Own Santa Claus.....cause if you Ask me....which you did.....

sounds like you've been a real good kid.....and need some real cool times......

you deserve them, I promise you that.

bless yer heart....

now...let's get it on....believe in yourself like i believe in YOU.

Those who constantly help others...need a little time for themselves.

iAN

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EzUSgwWkOQY